Unplanned pregnancy? I understand that unexpected news can bring a lot of emotions. If you’ve found out you’re unexpectedly pregnant, it’s okay to feel scared, ashamed, or panicked. Here at ThriVe+, our advocates care about your feelings and your future.
As a women’s advocate, I’m here to guide you through navigating these emotions and making choices that feel right for you.
Here are six suggestions to help you through this challenging time
1. Allow yourself to breathe and feel your emotions
Finding out about an unplanned pregnancy can bring up a mix of emotions – fear, confusion, or even relief. It’s crucial to give yourself the time and space to process these feelings.
Take a moment to breathe, acknowledge your emotions, and understand that it’s okay to feel the way you do. Rushing into decisions might not be helpful, so allow yourself this time. No decisions need to be made today.
2. Find emotional support
In times of uncertainty, having someone you trust by your side is huge. Reach out to a friend, family member, or consider speaking to an advocate like me at ThriVe+. We’re good at providing emotional support.
Even if you aren’t sure what the future holds, we’ve got your back. You don’t have to face this alone – seeking support is a strength, not a weakness.
3. Talk with a health professional
Confirming the unplanned pregnancy and understanding what stage you’re in is helpful. Knowing this can help you decide what comes next. Schedule a visit with a health professional who can provide accurate information.
At ThriVe+, we can help you in this process. We offer support and help you gather the necessary information about your options. That can include a pre-abortion screening at no cost, and that includes STD testing. You have options – abortion, adoption, or parenting. You’re totally qualified to make that choice.
4. Gather information
You’re feeling a lot of things right now. It’s natural to want to do something right away to alleviate the pain and confusion you may be feeling, but oftentimes our impulsive decisions can leave us feeling more uncertain in the long run. The best decisions consider your feelings AND your future goals, relationships, and mental health. You can take control of the situation by arming yourself with knowledge. ThriVe+’s advocates can guide you through the details of each option.
We care that you have all the info you need to make informed choices. Being informed empowers you to navigate the unexpected with greater confidence and clarity.
5. Build a support network
Regardless of the decision you make about your unplanned pregnancy, having a supportive network around you is crucial. Connect with people who care about you – people you know will be there no matter what. ThriVe’s advocates can help in building this network. We’re here for ongoing support, understanding, and guidance as you navigate through this time. You’ve got to have support. You shouldn’t have to face this alone.
6. Make an authentic decision
As you move forward, take time to reflect on your values, goals, and what you truly want for yourself. This is your decision. It’s about your life. Consider your beliefs and aspirations.
Trust yourself to make an authentic decision that aligns with who you are. Remember, it’s okay to think about your future and make choices that resonate with your beliefs.
Your feelings matter
It’s normal to feel mixed emotions about an unplanned pregnancy. After all, it wasn’t part of your plan. It’s important to acknowledge your fears and doubts and to process them. No matter what your feelings are, ThriVe+ would love to help you work them out:
1. Financial Worries
The financial aspect of pregnancy and parenting can be overwhelming. Concerns about how to afford medical care, childcare, and other expenses may arise. There are places that can help you financially as you decide. We can talk about resources at Thrive+ if you’d like.
2. Educational and Career Impact
Many women worry about the impact of pregnancy on their education or career. Understand your rights and options in these areas. Speak with counselors at school or advocates at ThriVe+ to explore potential accommodations and support systems available to you. You should never have to give up your career or school to have a baby if that’s what you choose.
3. Relationship Concerns
If you’re in a relationship, an unplanned pregnancy may bring about concerns. Are you worried about your partner’s reaction? What about the future of your relationship? Open communication is key. Consider seeking relationship counseling to navigate these discussions and decisions together.
4. Social Judgment
Fear of judgment from family, friends, or society is a common concern. Your well-being comes first. Surround yourself with supportive people who prioritize your needs and feelings. Advocates at ThriVe+ can offer guidance on how to deal with difficult people.
You shouldn’t have to feel shame.
You’re going through something tremendous and challenging. You’re brave and capable.
5. Health and Well-being
Health concerns may arise, especially if this is an unplanned pregnancy. Schedule an appointment with a healthcare professional right away. They can provide guidance on prenatal care (good to know no matter what you decide).
Your body is going through a lot of changes, so it’s important to know how to take care of yourself. You can get a no-cost pre-abortion screening at ThriVe+ to explore your options and make sure you’re healthy.
6. Decision-Making Pressure
Feeling pressured to make a quick decision can be stressful. Take the time you need to gather information and reflect on your options. Avoid giving in to other people pressuring you. Focus on making a decision that aligns with your values, goals, and well-being.
Addressing these concerns is a crucial part of the decision-making process. Remember, you’re not alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you. The more informed and supported you are, the better equipped you’ll be to make decisions that are right for you.
