Tell boyfriend about pregnancy and find your support.
You’ve got someone in your corner – Thrive+. We understand how hard it can be to process an unplanned pregnancy. Telling your boyfriend about it can feel daunting and complicated. We want you to feel support through this. Let’s talk more about communication and safety in relationships, and how you can get the support you need.
First things first, we want you to know that we get it. The news about the unplanned pregnancy might have felt like a tornado of emotions crashing in. Take a deep breath and remember that talking about it can actually be a relief. When we open up, it’s like shining a light into the dark corners of our worries. Telling your boyfriend about this might feel like climbing a mountain, but it’s a climb we can make together.
Your village has your back
Life’s journeys are smoother with a solid crew by your side. When you tell boyfriend about pregnancy, you need your village. You’ve got friends, family, and guess what? You’ve got us in your corner too. Tough times are made easier when we share the load. The people who love you aren’t just there for the good times, they’re meant to wrap you up in a blanket of support when things get tough.
If you’re feeling unsure about who you can trust, please reach out to talk with someone on our team. We can help you navigate tricky relationships and get you the help you need right now.
Red flags and trusting your gut
So, about relationships… Let’s talk about red flags – the signs that something isn’t quite right. If your boyfriend has unpredictable behavior or makes you feel unsafe, he might be showing red flags that you should pay attention to. And remember, you deserve someone who cheers you on, not someone who tries to dim your light.
Let’s dive deeper into the importance of trusting your gut when it comes to relationships. As you prepare to tell boyfriend about pregnancy, consider how he’s made you feel in other vulnerable moments. You see, that inner voice of yours – the one that says “yes” or “wait a minute” – is like your own personal compass. It’s there to guide you, and it’s important to pay attention to it, especially when it comes to relationships.
Here’s a closer look at those red flags and how your gut might react:
- The respect rule: Healthy relationships are built on respect. If your partner consistently brushes off your ideas, mocks your thoughts, or makes you feel small, that’s a major red flag. You deserve someone who listens and values what you have to say.
Gut feeling: If you find yourself feeling unheard or dismissed, your gut might send up a flare that says, “Hey, this isn’t how it’s supposed to be.”
- Acting jealous: Jealousy isn’t just an emotion; it’s a neon sign telling you that something’s off. If your partner gets overly jealous and doesn’t want you spending time with others, your gut’s probably telling you, “Whoa, hold up.” A good partner trusts you and respects your need for other connections. If you need to tell boyfriend about pregnancy and that scares you, that’s a red flag.
Gut feeling: If you feel like your freedom is being held hostage by jealousy, it’s time to pay attention.
- The freedom factor: Everyone’s unique. Solid relationships encourage each person to shine individually. But if your partner tries to control your every move or makes you feel guilty for pursuing your passions, your gut is raising a flag. In a healthy relationship, you both get to grow, side by side.
Gut feeling: If you feel like your partner’s trying to put you in a box, your gut might be waving a “be yourself” banner.
- Keep your connections: It’s important to maintain your connections with friends and family. They’re part of your daily life and community. So, if your partner’s trying to isolate you, urging you to ditch your pals or avoid family gatherings, your gut might be sounding the alarm. When you tell boyfriend about pregnancy, make sure you have support from other people in your life beforehand. Healthy relationships actually celebrate your connections outside of the partnership.
Gut feeling: If your gut senses that you’re being pushed away from your support system, it’s signaling a warning.
- Safe, sound, and strong: Your gut is like your internal security system. It’s sensitive to danger even before you consciously notice it. If you ever feel threatened, unsafe, or scared in any way – whether it’s emotional, verbal, or physical – your gut is shouting at you to take action. Your well-being is the top priority.
Gut feeling: If you sense danger, your gut’s sounding all the alarms — and telling you to find safety ASAP.
Remember, your gut feelings are like your personal radar. They’re not to be ignored. If something feels off, it probably is. Trusting your gut is one of the most powerful tools you have for navigating relationships. If the task to tell boyfriend about pregnancy makes you feel nervous or scared, please don’t go alone. And if ever things feel too overwhelming or unsafe, reach out to a trusted adult or a counselor – they can be your partners in finding the best way forward. If you ever feel like you are in physical danger, it’s important to call 911 to help deescalate the situation.
Bring a friend
Facing “the pregnancy talk” with your boyfriend might feel difficult, but guess what? You’ve got helpers if you want them. If the thought of going through it alone makes you feel like you’re about to walk on a tightrope without a net, ask a trusted adult or counselor to be right there with you.
Having someone neutral in the room can make the conversation feel less like a showdown and more like a heart-to-heart. It’s okay to tell him something like, “I brought my friend because I need a lot of support right now,” or “I’m feeling vulnerable and I just need a lot of support.”
You’re the author of your story
Remember this: a situation doesn’t define you. Your future matters, and you have choices. When you tell boyfriend about pregnancy, he should be there to support you and help you make a decision that’s best for both of you. Whether you choose abortion, adoption, or parenting, you have a bright future and the support of all of us here at Thrive+. You’ve got a world of possibilities ahead.
Ultimately, this decision is yours—and yours only.
We want you to know that we’re here, no matter what. Whether you’ve got questions, worries, or just need a friendly ear, we’ve got you covered. Your feelings are precious and worthy of care and attention.
Take care, and remember, you’re stronger than you think.