When you’re unexpectedly pregnant and looking for women’s health services you need support. Facing an unplanned pregnancy can be incredibly challenging. Even more so when your relationship with your partner is still new, and now you’re pregnant. It’s completely normal to feel a mix of emotions, and your feelings are valid. This is a significant moment. You’re not alone here — ThriVe+ is a safe place.
We understand that things with you and your partner might be complicated, especially if you haven’t been together long. A new relationship can be uncertain, and adding a pregnancy into the mix can bring a lot of pressure.
Wondering what this means for your future with your partner?
Worried about whether he’s ready to take on this responsibility?
It’s super important to take time to process everything and figure out what YOU truly want and need.
What can I do now?
One of the first steps is to find safe and supportive people to talk to — building your “village” as we like to say. This could be trusted friends, family members, or our advocates at ThriVe+. We’re a non-judgmental, confidential space. You can explore your feelings and options without pressure. And our women’s health services are no-cost.
Whether you decide to involve your boyfriend now or later, it’s entirely your choice. You should feel supported and prepared to make the best decision for yourself.
How can I talk to my partner?
When it comes to sharing the news with your partner, be open and truthful. He might have his own set of emotions and thoughts about the situation. Try to have a calm, honest conversation about where both of you stand. Maybe he’ll want to join you when you get women’s health services. Whatever the future of your relationship, you have the right to decide the level of involvement you want him to have in your life and in the decision-making process.
Here are some possible answers to questions you might have going through your mind:
1. How do I tell my boyfriend about the pregnancy?
– Choose a safe, private, and quiet place where you won’t be interrupted. Be honest and direct, expressing your feelings and concerns. You might say, “I have something important to talk about. I’m pregnant, and I’m feeling a lot of emotions about it.“
2. What if my boyfriend doesn’t want to be involved?
– His reaction might be influenced by shock or fear. Give him some time to process the news. Regardless of his involvement, remember that you have the support of ThriVe+ and other resources to help you through this.
3. How can I gauge if my boyfriend is ready for this responsibility?
– Look at his actions and words. Is he willing to talk about the situation, offer support, and discuss the future? His willingness to engage in these conversations and help you get women’s health services can be a good indicator.
Your partner’s (lack of) readiness shouldn’t determine your decision, though. This is your choice and your future.
4. Should I consider my boyfriend’s feelings and opinions when making my decision?
– While it’s natural to consider his feelings, the decision ultimately lies with you. It’s crucial that you make a choice that aligns with your values, needs, and desires for the future.
5. What if my boyfriend pressures me into a decision I’m not comfortable with?
– Stand firm in your feelings and decisions. It’s important to make a choice that you are comfortable with. No one can force you into anything. This is your body and your pregnancy. You have the power to make this decision, and you alone.
This is another reason it’s important to have a support system (like trustworthy friends and advocates at ThriVe+). They can help you find the courage to stand up for yourself when you’re feeling pressured.
6. How do I navigate the uncertainty of our relationship while making a decision about the pregnancy?
– Focus on what you need and want for your future. Consider your relationship’s potential, but prioritize your well-being and long-term goals. No matter what you decide about your relationship, you will have support. ThriVe+ is here to support you with information about your options. You’ve got what it takes to handle what comes next — whatever that is for you.
7. What women’s health services are available to help me understand my options?
– ThriVe+ offers comprehensive info on parenting, adoption, and abortion. All our info is medically accurate, research-backed, and pro-woman.
8. Who can I talk to for support and advice?
– ThriVe+ advocates, trusted friends, and family members can all offer support. Consider getting professional counseling for an objective perspective.
9. How will having a baby affect my current life plans and goals?
– When we face challenging circumstances, sometimes there isn’t a quick and easy solution that will make everything go back to the way things were. An unplanned pregnancy is one of those times.
But it’s important for you to know that you have a bright future ahead, and you will get through this challenging time.
Whatever you decide (whether it’s having the baby or abortion), the decision will have an impact on your life. It’s okay to feel uncertain and afraid — just get the information you need to take it one step at a time. And many women who decide on parenting or adoption continue pursuing their education, career, and other goals.
But you don’t have to have it all figured out right now. Getting supportive women’s health services (like making an appointment at ThriVe+) is the first step.
10. What are the financial and emotional impacts of each option?
– Each option (parenting, adoption, or abortion) has financial and emotional impacts. It might be easier to see some of the impacts of parenting and adoption, but abortion has financial and emotional impact as well. It’s important to have a clear picture of what your choice might mean for you . If you’re considering abortion, make sure you understand the procedure, risks and side effects so you’ll make an informed choice. ThriVe+ can help you explore these impacts in detail.
11. How do I deal with the stress and emotions of this situation?
– Practice self-care, talk to supportive people, and consider counseling. ThriVe+ offers advocacy and emotional support. We know, it’s a lot to deal with. But you deserve support. We’ve got your back.
12. What are my rights in terms of making decisions about my body and pregnancy?
– You have the right to make decisions about your body and pregnancy without coercion. This includes the right to continue the pregnancy, place the baby for adoption, or choose an abortion.
13. How do I involve my family and friends in this decision, and should I?
– Decide who you trust to be supportive and non-judgmental. Sharing with close family or friends can provide additional support and guidance. Some women like to get women’s health services like an ultrasound with a friend or family member. But it’s your choice how much to involve them.
14. What kind of support can I expect from organizations like ThriVe+?
– ThriVe+ offers advocacy, women’s health services like pregnancy tests and pre-abortion screenings, parenting classes and emotional support. We’re here to help you no matter what you choose.
15. How do I make a decision that aligns with my personal values and beliefs?
– Reflect on your values, beliefs, and life goals. Consider how each option aligns with them. Women’s health services at ThriVe+ can help you explore your values and how they impact your decision.
16. Can I get support for my mental health?
– Yes. ThriVe+ offers no-cost support via women’s advocates. We specialize in pregnancy-related topics. Getting support can help you process your emotions and make an informed decision.
17. How might my decision impact my relationship?
– The truth is, each option will have an impact on you and the relationship — whether you choose parenting, adoption, or abortion. It’s important to get a realistic perspective about each, and make a decision that aligns with your values. It’s also important to understand the risks of a medical procedure like the abortion pill or surgical abortion.
It’s okay (and needed!) to take the decision one step at a time. You don’t have to have everything figured out. Talk openly with your partner and others you trust. And get the information you need to make an empowered decision by making an appointment at ThriVe+.
18. What should I do if I feel overwhelmed or unable to make a decision?
– Take your time and get support. Talk with one of our advocates at ThriVe+. Our women’s health services can provide information and help you break down the decision-making process into manageable steps.
20. What are the steps to take when I’m considering parenting, adoption or abortion?
Again, it’s okay if you don’t have it all figured out right now. It’s important to understand all of your options, and take it one step at a time.
ThriVe+ can provide information about your options so that you can make the best choice for YOU. If you are considering abortion, we can help you understand the process at a pre-abortion screening. And if you are considering parenting or adoption, we can connect you with the resources you need.
Get support
Take your time. Make an informed decision that aligns with your values and life goals. When you gather info and take time, you’ll be able to feel confident in your choice. You have the right to consider your future carefully.
We believe in your strength and your ability to make the right choice for yourself. If you need someone to talk to or want more info about your options, don’t hesitate to reach out. You don’t have to go through this alone.
