Do you feel like you have an unsupportive partner during pregnancy? I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling stressed right now. It’s completely normal to have a whirlwind of emotions. This pregnancy might not have been part of your plan. It doesn’t make it any easier if your partner isn’t seeing eye to eye with you.
You need support right now, no matter what decision you make. You deserve respect and support.
A lot of women have mixed feelings during pregnancy. That’s especially true if the pregnancy wasn’t part of your plan. But your feelings are valid and deserve recognition. It’s alright to just feel what you’re feeling for a while.
But know this: you are in control here. You have choices, even now. And whatever choice you make, ThriVe+ will be here to support you with medically-accurate information and respect. If your partner isn’t respecting you, you’re probably feeling down. That’s only natural, because your partner is supposed to be your biggest supporter.
Are you feeling any of these?
1. Feeling Let Down: It’s deeply disappointing when someone you trust isn’t there for you. Acknowledge this feeling; it’s valid and understandable.
2. Fear and Anxiety: Maybe the future seems uncertain. That can be overwhelming. This is a big change, and it’s okay to feel unsure or even scared about what’s to come.
3. Isolation: You might feel alone in this situation. Especially if you anticipated your partner’s support. Perhaps you feel worried about telling your family or friends, too. Lots of women have these worries.
Finding your solid ground
When you have an unsupportive partner during pregnancy, it’s a good thing to think through your feelings. But it’s also important to find help. You shouldn’t go through this time by yourself.
At ThriVe+, we can help you find that support. We’ve got no-cost women’s advocacy and decision consultations to help empower you. After all, this is your decision to make. We care about you and want you to feel confident.
In the meantime, you can empower yourself by learning all about your options:
– Understanding Your Rights: You have the right to make decisions about your body, your pregnancy. Your options are abortion, adoption, and parenting. No one can make this choice for you, not even your partner. Even if he’s putting pressure on you, it’s still your choice.
– Exploring Your Options: Take the time to understand all your options. Decision consultations can help you understand the pros and cons of each path. Make an appointment to talk with someone who will listen and really care.
– Support Systems: Building a village of support is super important. This can include friends, family, or support groups for people in similar situations. We can connect you with these resources.
What should I say to my partner?
We don’t know your situation specifically, but it’s always helpful to be honest and clear when you’re talking with your partner. Make sure you’re in a safe, comfortable place to have a discussion. Here are some things that might help as you talk with him:
– Communicate openly: Try having an open and honest conversation with your unsupportive partner during pregnancy. Sometimes, people need time to process the news and may become more supportive as they adjust. Give him some time. But be super honest about your plan, and your expectations of him. Jot down some things you want to say before you have this conversation. This can help you go into it with a clear mind and confidence.
– Set Boundaries: If your partner is still unsupportive after your talk, it’s important to set boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. What might those look like for you? Write down a list of boundaries you’ll consider, like his involvement in the pregnancy and your communication with him.
Building your village
– Friends and Family: Reach out to people who you trust. They can give you emotional support, practical help, and a listening ear. You might find support in people you don’t expect.
– Community Resources: ThriVe+ offers women’s advocacy services. What’s that mean? It basically means we’re in your corner. Whatever needs you have, we’ll do our best to help you get it. Plus, we can connect you with other community resources. We’ll always be here for you, no matter what decision you make. You deserve the support.
– Find Support: Think about finding a counselor or advocate that you can talk with. They’ll give you a safe space to explore your feelings and options. ThriVe+ does not offer professional counseling, but we do have patient advocates who can help you understand your options. There’s no shame in seeking help when you need it. In fact, it’s normal and healthy to get help during stressful seasons.
You don’t have to have all the answers
Thinking through things that could happen in the future can feel overwhelming. But don’t let fear of the unknown pressure you into a decision that you aren’t sure about. Right now, it’s important to focus on gathering information and support.
You’ve got what it takes, no matter what you decide. You’re smart, capable, and you have support.
And if you decide to continue the pregnancy, you’ll have legal rights concerning child support and custody, whether or not your partner is supportive of your decision.
Empower yourself
Remember, you’re not alone in this. Here are some tips to help you take care of yourself:
– Self-Care: Prioritize your physical and emotional health. This can include regular prenatal care, healthy eating, and finding moments of relaxation.
– Stay Informed: Knowledge is actually power. Make it your goal to understand your situation and options. It can give you a sense of control. Our women’s advocates at ThriVe+ can help you learn about your options. We can talk about abortion, pregnancy, adoption, or whatever you need to talk about.
– Lean on Us: ThriVe+ is here for you. We can be your support system. Whether it’s through advocacy, no-cost health services, or connecting you with supportive communities, we’re here to help.
Reach out
When you feel ready, please reach out to us. We can provide the support and resources you need. You need and DESERVE support. Remember, you are strong. Even if you have an unsupportive partner during pregnancy, there is a community ready to stand by you.
Your feelings and needs are important. Taking care of yourself is the first step in making the best decisions for you and your health.
